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Irritation at inauthenticity

One aspect of getting to know someone well is getting to see their inauthenticity – getting to see the difference between how they appear to present themselves to others publically and how they actually appear to be with you ‘privately’- on the many occasions you have met them. This can occasionally express itself as a feeling of irritation towards them.

Its interesting to ask ourselves what is under this feeling of irritation. It may be that the irritation is caused by that person not appearing to fit with a certain belief we have, perhaps a belief that goes something like this: “You should be authentic at all times and in all places”.

But why should we impose this belief on our friend or lover? Isn’t up to them how they behave? Besides, if we did not have this belief – perhaps we wouldn’t get so irritated.

 
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Posted by on March 23, 2012 in Observation

 

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A failure or failing is a stigma before great success, a ‘heroic obstacle bravely overcome’ afterwards

(Why do many lifestyle shows in the style of Oprah mostly interview people after they have overcome an obstacle, solved a problem, or survived an ordeal, and not during it?)

 
 

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Perhaps one of the biggest secrets of them all?

Weird is normal.

 

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Sometimes a good question can better direct your thinking than a thousand answers

 
 

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Optimal disorder?

If you had a lab or a scientific vision that was TOO well organised, would it reduce your chances of making serendipitous discoveries? If you had society what was TOO well organised would it reduce your chances of making serendipitous friendships and acquaintances? (e.g. Imagine a society in which procedures are so well worked out and explicit that you don’t even need to ask people questions about how and what to do?)

Is there an argument to be made that for the purposes of scientific discovery and promoting human connection, that there should be a certain element of disorder/chaos in labs, institutions and societies?

Serendipity

 

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Romance occurs when two* people’s shared appreciation of what they are experiencing is intensified by their appreciation of each other.

* or more

 

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Some men will not sleep* with a prostitute mostly because it allows them to maintain a feeling of moral superiority over those who have.

(I have never slept with a prostitute. So there.)

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* Or pick any ‘bad’ thing e.g. cheat romantically, cheat on taxes, lie, gossip etc.

 

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