Its not so important how many ‘experiences’ of different types you have had (sexual, travel, drug, spiritual, meetings with remarkable people etc.), so long as you aren’t counting notches on your belt.
Category Archives: Aphorism
Its not so important whether you perform or are authentic, as long as when you perform, you perform authentically.
Its not so important whether your expression is original or clichéd, as long as when you are original, its not out of fear of cliché.
Measuring non-attachment
Perhaps the most beautiful and insightful – albeit double-barrelled – personality test item I have ever seen –
“I find I can be calm and/or happy even if things are not going my way.”
Answer with the following:
1 = Disagree Strongly,
2 = Disagree Moderately,
3 = Disagree Slightly,
4 = Agree Slightly,
5 = Agree Moderately, and
6 = Agree Strongly.
From paper: A Scale to Measure Nonattachment
Worry expands to the problems* available
* Or: ‘work’
Illustration:
Something absolutely terrible could happen, and you worry. Fortunately that thing doesn’t happen. You are convinced that after that – nothing small will bother you any more. You are not going to ‘sweat the small stuff’.
A few weeks later – you are in a situation where something slightly serious could happen (but not in any way ‘terrible’). Nevertheless you find yourself worrying quite a lot anyway.
Insight Junkie 