Category Archives: Ego

By ‘ego’ I am primarily referring to the idea of a ‘false separate self’ used by spiritual teachers

Non-dual spirituality non-self vs Atheist non-self

When you believe* in the spiritual concept of ‘liberation’ i.e. a recognition/realisation of the delusion of a separate self, but you don’t have ‘life after death’ beliefs e.g. a belief in heaven, reincarnation etc. – then ‘liberation’ amounts to this:

1) either ‘dying’ when you die i.e. the concept of a separate self dies when your body dies – as for most people

2) or ‘dying’ a few years before you die i.e. the concept of a separate self dies and one’s own experience is transformed into ‘life experiencing life’

Given that for these people liberation only amounts to a few years of changed experience (often quite joyful) … does ‘liberation’ actually amount to much anyway? Is it actually such a ‘big deal’?

Presumably this is ‘something’ like the way Sam Harris (an atheist philosopher) and Tony Parsons (a ‘liberated’ ‘person’) experience the world (at least sometimes during meditation in the case of the former, permanently in the case of the later).

Since neither ‘believe’ in free-will, do they both doubt that you can ‘do’ anything about the outcome either?

* Strictly speaking – perhaps its not appropriate to refer to spiritual teachers as ‘believing’ certain words such as those written here – since they would say that this is the way they ‘experience’ reality – not a set of beliefs they have ‘about’ reality.

Sam Harris:

Tony Parsons:


Two types of people:

1 People who like people who like them back

2 Those who don’t give a damn


Posted by on February 22, 2012 in Self, Social connection


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Some time ago I passed through that immature phase commonly known as ‘the need to be right’. What a relief it is to have transcended such childish ways! Now I content myself with life’s simpler pleasures; such as showing people that they’re wrong.


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Does ‘sorry’ mean ‘I regret causing you pain or suffering’ or does it mean ‘Please don’t disapprove of me, reject me, think I am bad, tell other people I am bad etc.’?



An 8-year old girl, pointing to her arm asks: “Daddy, where is my ‘self’? Is it in my arm?”


Style is enchanting, but when they are in competition, choose substance. If you can tell the difference.

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Posted by on June 6, 2011 in Self-deception


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Empathy and egotism 1

Empathy is the capacity to recognize/share feelings with another.

But could/should you empathise with someone who says:

“I just saw this deformed man on the street. He made me feel horrible. Those people should just stay at home!”

Perhaps our capacity to empathise with another human being depends on whether we share a similar level of egotism?

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Posted by on June 6, 2011 in Ego, Ego-threat


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Sentimentality Haiku

Il Mafioso
Exits opera, dries his tears
Back to business

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Posted by on June 6, 2011 in Poem, Self-deception



Its mostly people close to you – family, lovers (and friends to a certain extent) – that push your buttons. What would it be like to have no buttons to push? Would you still be you?


‘Being Clever’ as a description vs. an ‘identity’. Fight Club scene

If you invest your ‘identity’ in ‘being clever’ (or stake your self-esteem on ‘being clever’), you feel good when you appear clever, but bad when you fail to appear clever. On the other hand, if you don’t identify with ‘being clever’ – it doesn’t matter so much what happens.

(about 50 seconds in)

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Posted by on June 6, 2011 in Ego, Ego-threat, Self, Self-esteem


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