Belief in a separate self is the hardest religion to leave. Its much easier just to become an atheist.
Category Archives: Ego
If you are ‘defensive’, there must be some ‘thing’ you are defending – some thing that’s ‘worth’ all that effort to defend. That’s a reasonable inference. Isn’t it?
Comments by Peter Fonagy, Steven Hayes etc. on the ‘ego’ in the movie ‘Revolver’
Slightly longer version:
Toward a psychology of ‘non-self’
Is it possible that questioning the existence of a ‘self’ could become part of mainstream psychology and perhaps even mainstream society? Perhaps with the help of a spiritual philosopher-neuroscientist-atheist-polemicist?…
’Integrity’ requires more than just good intentions. It requires a high degree of self-awareness, acceptance of imperfection and a capacity to work consistently toward a goal even in the face of negative emotions.
Its more courageous to see no ‘right’ decision and decide, than to decide that your decision is right.
I never meet ‘you’, I meet ‘you as you are with me’
With the relaxing of just one rarely-doubted but firmly-held assumption – that we have a separate ‘self’ – the seemingly incoherent and mundane utterances of certain spiritual teachers can become meaningful, significant and perhaps even scientifically tractable.
Its not so important how many ‘experiences’ of different types you have had (sexual, travel, drug, spiritual, meetings with remarkable people etc.), so long as you aren’t counting notches on your belt.
If you can’t be happy, feel superior. Or better still, ‘unique’.